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Post by WHU Independent » Thu Sep 05, 2019 1:58 pm

mushy wrote:https://amp.theguardian.com/society/201 ... ssion=true

Mental Health first aiders in the workplace.
I totally recommend this course. For me, it was literally life changing.

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Post by The Old Man of Storr » Fri Sep 06, 2019 8:59 am

Sorry , lads , just seen your replies , I was busy yesterday -

Yeah , after coming out of hospital back in July I think it was it did take a while before I actually felt well enough within myself , around two weeks , then I began to feel as though not much was wrong , I felt fine - I honestly thought this stone had somehow gone of its own accord but if it was stuck inside my bile duct where would it go ? Is the bile duct connected to the liver ? i really should look . :)

We were due to return to Elgin on Tuesday as Dan's course starts on Wednesday but with Billy's wife passing away I'm not sure I can go - he still has one son living at home with him , his other 4 children have moved away though they're all there just now - I'm popping to see him today [ he asked for 2 days to sort things out , poor man ] .

Ah well , we all have our own trials and tribulations to face in life and everyone's is different , - I hope you are all keeping well and thank you for your messages . :thup:

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Post by PrawnSandwich » Fri Sep 06, 2019 9:23 am

Mixed bag of news there TOMOS - hope you can navigate through this for all concerned including yourself.

Indy I told the CBT therapist and my private therapist that I had thought about it, made plans and what had stopped me executing them at the time.
I was put on a bit of a watch list and checked up on quite regularly for a while but obviously they made sure I had people in place to watch and support me but had contact numbers etc and every session was started with safe guarding etc.

But good posts from people and I hope that everyone is okay.
Not seen posts from a few people like Geordie Hammer recently so I hope it is because situations are improving.

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Post by Samba » Fri Sep 06, 2019 4:29 pm

The Old Man of Storr wrote:
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Is the bile duct connected to the liver ? i really should look . :)
The bile duct's connected to the, kneebone..

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Post by Tenbury » Fri Sep 06, 2019 5:54 pm

So it was you doing my hip repair last summer....

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Post by The Old Man of Storr » Fri Sep 06, 2019 6:45 pm

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So it was you doing my hip repair last summer....

His bedside manner leaves a lot to be desired too . :)

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Post by Samba » Fri Sep 06, 2019 9:52 pm

I should have heard, 'a cute angina'..

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Post by The Old Man of Storr » Fri Sep 06, 2019 11:22 pm

:lol:

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Post by Cuenca 'ammer » Fri Sep 06, 2019 11:30 pm

reminds me of the old joke:

I was interested in this girl and wanted to ask her dad if we go out for the evening

dad: of course son, but I have to tell you she has acute angina

me: well that's good - because her tits ain't worth a f**k

:oops: :oops: :oops:

apologies for pulling the thread down a little........hoping to put a little mirth into a very serious thread.

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Post by The Old Man of Storr » Sat Sep 07, 2019 9:48 pm

Got invited to a neighbour's party tonight - she'd made a huge effort , marquee , a bonfire , lots of lovely food but it wasn't being dished out for ages - apart from our neighbour , Jennie and our son I didn't know anyone , this Dutch lad and his wife came over to sit with me and made small talk but whenever I go to these dos I start feeling edgy , almost angry - I lasted 15 minutes , said I was going to the loo and went home .

I'm getting right miserable in my old age , I just like being at home in front of the telly .

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Post by Samba » Sat Sep 07, 2019 11:52 pm

The Old Man of Storr wrote:
Sat Sep 07, 2019 9:48 pm
Got invited to a neighbour's party tonight - she'd made a huge effort , marquee , a bonfire , lots of lovely food but it wasn't being dished out for ages - apart from our neighbour , Jennie and our son I didn't know anyone , this Dutch lad and his wife came over to sit with me and made small talk but whenever I go to these dos I start feeling edgy , almost angry - I lasted 15 minutes , said I was going to the loo and went home .
I'm getting right miserable in my old age , I just like being at home in front of the telly .
Admit it TOMoS, you were missing the 'Strictly' launch...

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Post by pablo jaye » Sun Sep 08, 2019 6:00 am

A lad that my daughter knows has just been evicted from his house and is currently camping as he is homeless. He’s been to the local authority but needless to say things take time to get sorted. He’s in North Hampshire and I wondered if anyone had any advice on where he might turn - unfortunately we’re not in a position to help much.

Cheers

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Post by The Old Man of Storr » Sun Sep 08, 2019 7:37 am

Samba wrote:
Sat Sep 07, 2019 11:52 pm
Admit it TOMoS, you were missing the 'Strictly' launch...
Well , the funny thing was we'd taken a load of food and drink to the party thinking it was a barbeque and our neighbour put it all in her fridge but when it came down to eating she'd prepared all this vegetarian stuff and it clearly wasn't being served until later on - not only couldn't I be bothered to speak to anyone but by 7.30 pm I was starving , when I got home all there was in the fridge was a joint of beef [ for today ] , some bacon and eggs , yoghurt and a load of salad stuff and vegetables , and a load of frozen salmon in the freezer - I had to drive to Broadford to get some food for my dinner , a 20 mile round trip !! :lol:
By 8.45 pm I had everything cooked with Casualty on the tv -

Life is too short for small talk .

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Post by Tenbury » Sun Sep 08, 2019 8:34 am

pablo jaye wrote:
Sun Sep 08, 2019 6:00 am
A lad that my daughter knows has just been evicted from his house and is currently camping as he is homeless. He’s been to the local authority but needless to say things take time to get sorted. He’s in North Hampshire and I wondered if anyone had any advice on where he might turn - unfortunately we’re not in a position to help much.

Cheers
I 've not been involved with the homeless stuff now for 15 months, and don't know this area well, but a couple of suggestions:
Obviously,supposing he isn't working,he needs to contact the Job Centre and make a claim for UB.
Next, I would find the nearest Food bank,and, if it's Tressel, he stands a good chance of being pointed in helpful directions.There is,also, the CAB, and, not least, the local churches.

Most of all,the guy needs a friend.Overwhelmingly, the homeless I have met have not began, at least,as heavy drinkers,substance abusers etc,etc, their dire circumstances and ESPECIALLY the total lack of someone ,living an ordinary life,to communicate with, just sucks them into the vortex of despair that is homelessness.I

As a single person, the Council probably won't help him, I hope he can get something sorted this side of winter.

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Post by pablo jaye » Sun Sep 08, 2019 9:42 am

Cheers Tenners, that is really appreciated. I’d not thought about the Trussell Trust, and also the advice on CAB and signing on. To be honest, even though we don’t know the fella, this has upset the missus and I more than we thought .... probably because our kids are of a similar age and are taking their next steps and are fortunate enough to have support.

Once again, thank you very much.

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Post by Tenbury » Sun Sep 08, 2019 10:57 am

You know, I had to give up the feeding station stuff because of all my mobility crap, but if I'm really ,really honest , sound people though a lot of the clients were, the whole thing brought me down too.If I ever get well again, I will go back to it, but the break has been welcome. There's only so much desperation you can take, that's why I suggest the individual the befriending thing, though, of course, those in need aren't necessarily people you're going to like!
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I don't know North Hampshire, most cities have a YMCA ( They are extremely variable, the Bristol one was always pretty much OK, the one at Worcester is a disgrace, both insecure and filthy).

A young single person is actually pretty vulnerable, though not always classed as such by the authorities, any factor in the guy's health or make up, acknowledged by a GP ( something else he needs) that can be construed to make him 'officially ' vulnerable would start shifting bums in the local council.

If he's prepared to move, some work comes with accomodation....

Anyhow, don't worry too much about your own kids, as I said somewhere,if you have people you love, these are the times to keep them close.

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Post by ToiletDuck » Sun Sep 08, 2019 6:46 pm

feeling pretty low today, not sure why , wanted to go out last night but nobody to go out with so must have brooed, got worse as the day has gone on

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Post by southbrishammer » Mon Sep 09, 2019 3:52 pm

How do I manage the growing realisation that my life has probably changed permanently for the worse?

A while back I did a Bad Thing. I did so knowing that it was bad, but did it anyway (I think this is a fairly common human trait), but I assumed that if the drastically under-resourced police found out they wouldn't be concerned, because in my mind what I did was at the lower end of the scale and they would be too busy trying to catch the real bad guys.

I was wrong. I received a suspended prison sentence and unpaid work, and subsequently after the local media published a sensationalised account of the court case, I lost my job. I am now struggling to find work even though I have lots of experience and transferable skills, as I have to declare my conviction and it puts employers off.

Fortunately my wife and family are reasonably supportive and haven't chucked me out the house or stopped speaking to me, although my relationships with them will be forever tainted. I have a relentlessly positive attitude about life, always thinking that things will be ok, but I thought that about the police and my job, and was completely wrong in both cases, so although I still think I will get a job and some type of normality will return, I may well be wrong again.

Going through the court system was one of the worst experiences of my life, and at this stage it seems like the only thing it has achieved, either for me or society, is to attach a stigma to me. I just want to get on with my life, and the probation service is supposed to be there to help me rehabilitate myself, but having a conviction just puts up barriers and allows others to be judgemental.

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Post by Samba » Tue Sep 10, 2019 12:03 am

ToiletDuck wrote:
Sun Sep 08, 2019 6:46 pm
feeling pretty low today, not sure why , wanted to go out last night but nobody to go out with so must have brooed, got worse as the day has gone on
Feel for you, mate. Might be the changing season. I've always felt unsettled by it. Have you ever had any kind of talking therapy?
A while ago someone talked about men's groups that have been set up for blokes to get together to talk about their mental health (& other topics).
Is that something that you could explore?

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Post by Samba » Tue Sep 10, 2019 12:12 am

southbrishammer wrote:
Mon Sep 09, 2019 3:52 pm
How do I manage the growing realisation that my life has probably changed permanently for the worse?
Going through the court system was one of the worst experiences of my life, and at this stage it seems like the only thing it has achieved, either for me or society, is to attach a stigma to me. I just want to get on with my life, and the probation service is supposed to be there to help me rehabilitate myself, but having a conviction just puts up barriers and allows others to be judgemental.
I feel for you as well, sbh.
The system is set up to be very 'black & white'. If you've done 'this', then that means 'that'. Not much room for making up for having made a bad decision.
There are employers out there prepared to give some people a chance. Trouble is, finding them..but don't ever think that they don't exist, because they do.

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