A loved one suffering from terminal cancer, dying and sorting out affairs...

[Misko]

Your posts are so moving, genuinely loving and profund, ILL... Words seem always useless in such situations, but as many people here, I'm thinking of you, and I have been really impressed by the love and devotion and courage you showed.

[Denbighammer]

I don't know what to say. ILL your posts are so moving. My thoughts are with you and your family. May your mother Rest in Peace. All the best.

[hammer etc]

My mum died 60 years ago next November. I still think of her from time to time, wander what could have happened if she had lived. I have a few pictures and a few other things of hers. When I was younger people said "you look just like your mum." At the moment it is tough ILL and in a sense that's a positive because it means you loved her. And it will for a while. You will never forget you mother and eventually you will be happy to sit and think about the good times you shared of which I am sure there are many. Hopefully you have family around to help you through the days/months ahead. Be strong as you can but also it's good to let your emotions go as well.

May your mother RIP.

[LittleChris]

Really sorry to hear of your loss ILL. Stay strong.

[iLoveLasagne]

Thanks everyone. Each and every post means a lot, I really do mean it guys

[Samba]

Thanks everyone. Each and every post means a lot, I really do mean it guys

You remain in my (& I bet everyone else's) thoughts, iLL.
Your post had me blubbing btw, so thanks for that..
RIP your lovely mum.

[iLoveLasagne]

I watched It's a Wonderful Life for the first time today. I think my mum is definitely a George Bailey. But she never needed the intervention of an angel to save her. She earned her angel wings herself through her time on earth. As it was Christmas, she urged me to bring the last box of Ferrero Rocher at home to the hospital nurses when I could, as she saw they were all working so hard, especially on Christmas Eve, just as she did the last time when they operated on her cancer.

They're all normal people who are all different, so some are nicer than others. But some were really amazing, maintaining incredible compassion through difficult and exhausting conditions.

[btajim - mcfc]

When I had my ileostomy earlier this year, I had nurses give me very special care for the first few days when I could do nothing but lie in bed. My stoma burst or blood started coming out of somewhere… Nothing to them. Sorted in two minutes. God bless our NHS.

[iLoveLasagne]

My mum wasn't a football fan really. Although she did watch whenever England played in tournaments. She knew the names of all the players and if she didn't she would have done so after one game. She watched the World Cup even though I didn't as I chose to boycott it. I could often hear her shout out 'Kane!' This season I haven't watched much of our matches. One of the last matches we did watch together though was our loss to Frankfurt. She even watched the final by herself just to see what could have been.

Her customers would always talk about West Ham to her as she told them all that I was a supporter. Some Daggers fans even talk to her about their results in order to seek some consolation even though she ended up just nodding looking bemused most of the time. Sometimes without prompting she would say things like 'West Ham are so good!' as she learned of the scores off the telly or saw their league position. But most of the time she would ask me 'are they getting relegated?'

I guess West Ham would have been an appropriate club for her. Fortunes always hiding and that. But she would always be blowing her bubbles in life.

Mods, I wonder if this thread could be moved to the Memorial section for me please? Thank you in advance.

[ageing hammer]

Sorry for your Loss ILL but your mum is now out of pain, your posts were so sad and heart wrenching. God bless you mate.

[Eggs'n'nuts]

I can only echo what others have said ILL.

I lost my Dad twelve years ago in November and sometimes it still feels like yesterday. We also lost The Lovely Ms. Eggs's Mum in October and it's still raw, especially as this next 12 months will be the first anniversary of everything.

She may be gone in body, but all the time you and your sister are thinking of her, her spirit will still be alive.

My sincere condolences to you and your family mate. X

[mushy]

Hope you are doing ok ILL.
I for one am enjoying hearing the stories about your mum and the pictures you have been painting. Keep them coming please.

[aboooooooooo]

tough one for me this one. I lost my dad at the end of October. He was ill for quite a while but went downhill rapidly toward the end. After a stint in hospital he was given a bed in Havering Court (Bupa Nursing Home) who work closely with the palliative care team at St. Francis.

I have to say that after a few teething troubles the staff and care given at the home was really good, but the guys who came in from St. Francis were unbelievable. They explained everything clearly and didn't sugar coat a thing but delivered every message with both sympathy and empathy. The way they handle the emotions of not only the patients but the families also was amazing and I couldn't thank them enough for all of the support they gave.

I did a lot of my grieving for dad in the last few months he was with us, and the hospice guys ad care teams were with us every step of the way.

I will probably shed a tear tonight when i get to the ground, as i've had my season ticket for 30+ years, and attended regularly with dad over the years.

Stay strong mate, and remember it's ALWAYS good to talk.

[Tenbury]

I'LL,
You're moving tribute to your dear Mum, though personal to you of course, will have triggered memories for many of us, and I for one am really grateful to you for that. My mum passed 13 yrs ago and though I still miss her so, the memories you've brought back are mostly really fond ones. I'm sure that despite the initial emptyness of loss all of you recently bereaved, you will, in time, feel the same.
Mother Earth Bless you all.