The Mental Health Thread - (Help Contacts in First Post).

[Mega Ron]

It's all good Jim. It honestly did make me laugh.

[btajim - mcfc]

Gallows humour? I remember those days.

-Three nil up and you still don’t sing
-Let’s pretend we’ve scored a goal
-It’s only 2-0… How crap must you be?

Part of me misses it.

[mushy]

It's all good Jim. It honestly did make me laugh.

You have a Pm, and so do you Rigoberts.

[WHU Independent]

Been a bit absent from here due to being busy, but I just want to reiterate what other people have said @ DL, Samba, Jim and MR: Sorry to hear what you are going through, and it must be really tough for all of you. I really hope that things go well for you all and I wish you all the best in the world.

As for everyone else - it's a trying life, take it one day at a time and keep positive.

[Samba]

At 4am yesterday I was in a pretty bleak place mentally.

I was sat on a bench, alone in the woods, with just darkness going through my mind.

So I called the Samaritans. And it just rang out. It made me laugh to think that not even they were interested.

That wasn't the Samaritan's number MR, sounds like you called one of GS or B by mistake..

[Samba]

Mum passed away at around 15:30 Tuesday afternoon.
Me & sister were there & mum left us very peacefully.
I shall miss her so much but I am also able to think that it was her time.
Thanks for all of the support on here, it really helped to have your thoughts with me.

[hammer etc]

Sorry for your loss. Take your time to grieve and then hopefully find some piece. My mum died 59 years ago this November. I still think of her and the few memories I have. You will have lots to remind you in the years ahead. May she RIP

[Samba]

I had this played for my dad at his funeral. I won't have it played at my mum's but the sentiment is the same.

[SRXT]

To both rigoberts song and MR, if either of you are interested to talking to a professional and can't find help with the avenues you have there, am happy to ask a English speaking psych in Argentina to contact you via WhatsApp for a chat. I haven't dealt with her on a professional basis but I know helping people means a lot more to her than money.

I hope you've both been able to find someone or something to help. Find a professional you trust and go from there is all I can say. A day at a time or even an hour or a minute. I'm oceans away, but it sounds like there's people on here who will come and see you in person if you don't want to be alone.

I heard this at a funeral I was at recently and I think it's fitting: don't make a permanent decision over a temporary situation. The temporary situation can feel so horribly unpleasant, you might wonder when people say you'll get through this or you're stronger than this what the heck they're on about, but life can be so bloody beautiful, it's the finding the way back to that.

I'm not sure about over there, but here if you call the crisis team and they don't pick up, leaving a message means they will call you back. Otherwise is it possible to present at the ED?

Samba, sorry to hear about your mum. Lovely that you got to spend those last moments with her. Another saying I've held onto is no one is truly gone until the memory of them is. I find that helps me when I'm missing my dad. It might just seem like a cheap cliche to some.

[S-H]

So sorry, Samba, words fall short at times like this.

Look after yourself, mate.

[rigoberts song]

Morning So sorry for your loss Samba
It says so much about you as a human being that you took time from your grieving of your mum to support me I'm humbled thank you.Have a moment looking at "Gone from my sight " by Henry van dyke it's a beautiful parable.
Mushy thanks as ever I'll pop you a pm in a moment.
Appreciate the offer of counselling from our Argentinian friend too.
Sorry to be too gushing with the thanks but I really appreciate the chat DL hope it doesnt ruin your bad reputation as the hard man mod.joking

[S-H]

Hope you're doing ok today Rigoberts, and you Ron.

[Mega Ron]

Mum passed away at around 15:30 Tuesday afternoon.
Me & sister were there & mum left us very peacefully.
I shall miss her so much but I am also able to think that it was her time.
Thanks for all of the support on here, it really helped to have your thoughts with me.

Thinking of you mate.

[-DL-]

Samba, condolences my friend.

Rigoberts, hope you're feeling in a better place this morning.

Ron, check your PMs if you haven't already done so.

My head's up my bum this morning, and will be for most of the day I would have thought - I see the doc at 1615 this afternoon, where I get my histology results and get my staging and grading. Didn't sleep great last night - a combination of stressing about today, and making the grave mistake of going on the transfer thread last night when I was really ready to go up to bed (tbh, it was in response to a plea for help from another mod that was trying to do it on his own on his phone) and spending ages tidying it up and making my brain active again. It's very rare I'm up beyond midnight, but there I was still plugging away at about quarter past, and it then took a while to unwind afterwards.

It's just a bit crap really - you don't expect to have that horrible feeling you get when going in to the doctors room to be told if you're in serious trouble or not twice in your life before you're fifty for two totally separate and unrelated cancers. I think I would be able to deal with it a bit better if it was metastasis of my previous one, but it being a new one entirely, it's a bit of a head f*** - but I think it's a bit easier, because I was expecting it to happen - just not so soon.

I put on this very thread a while back, that I was being realistic and pragmatic and had accepted that the likelihood is I would get cancer again, but nonetheless, I certainly wasn't anticipating it to be quite so soon. Still, whether it be just superficial or something more sinister, either way, I just have to get on with it and put my trust in the docs and whatever treatment they can come up with and hope for the best.

Although lucky or fortunate are probably not the right words, I consider myself to be both of those in a way, because my team of docs at UCLH for my bladder cancer are led by Professor John Kelly, who is a pioneering bladder cancer surgeon and is one of the best in his field, if not the best, and has been a governmental advisor and bladder cancer lead for Cancer Research, and the skin doc I'm seeing today also specialises in alternative treatment, and is skin cancer lead for the trust, and a former skin cancer advisor to the Welsh Assembly Government, so it seems I'm in good hands, whatever I'm up against.

It's going to be a long day on tenterhooks, but I'm going to alleviate some of that by taking budding palaeontologist, Isaac, to the fossil shop in Rochester later on in the morning to see if they have anything new that won't break the bank to add to his already large collection and display of fossils that he so meticulously keeps in his bedroom.

He'll probably mug me for lunch too, but if I can convince him to have a Greggs, it's win-win...

[mushy]

Samba,
Am so desperately sorry for your loss, big love to you and yours. Your mum is no longer suffering -which I realise is a bit if a cliché but sometimes these things can bring comfort.
Stay in touch mate.
DL,
Nobody on this earth could have prepared for what you've been through and are going through now.
Best of luck today and you know where I am.

Mega Ron and Rigoberts,
What can I say? Sad to hear of your desperate plights, keep talking guys, so far youve been inspirational to all of us. Keep it up please and you also know where we are.

[rigoberts song]

Good luck today DL
Sending strength to you Samba at this terrible time.

[btajim - mcfc]

I hope to be out of hospital today. One final CT scan before I get the all clear for tablet antibiotics instead of a drip. I can’t believe I put a pelvic abscess down to a stomach upset. I even went on holiday to Malaga.

[OFT]

Samba, so sorry for your loss, condolences to you and yours. Take care

DL, hope it all goes well for you today

To each and every one of you at the thin end at the minute, very best wishes

[DrVenk]

Ron and Rigoberts - it ain't easy at all letting out those feelings. I just hope as the week progresses the darkness subsides a bit. All we can do is keeping talking and exercising those demons really. Trust that process. Keep talking.

SRXT

Samba - my most sincerest condolences. I love your openness and honesty whilst going through tough times AND still being a positive, funny, and supportive poster despite tough times. Your mum must have been a wonderful lady - she raised a truly brilliant son.

DL - who can't admire your stones? I really really really hope today brings good news for you. And for us - we need you fighting fit marshalling the GD! Especially after last night. Keeps us posted fella.

I do this every now and then, but big thumbs up to RARS for starting this thread. As we have seen, this thread does a lot more than just giving a space for people to vent - it really helps people.

They say a mark of a man is how he treats others who are of no use to him. Only then can you find out who is a truly decent person. I see so many on here. Warms the old cockles. It really does.

KBO and COYI

[Tenbury]

DL, you are one tough mother, good luck.

Ron and Rigoberts, I wish I could find the right words, I'll try but probably fail.
I've been in that place and there IS a road back. I've done most of the regulation treatments(some work for some, some work for others) but this 'road back' isn't that hard. It's just a change of mindset really. The stuff that gets me down hasn't got any better, it's always there, it's just that I accept what I can't change, and concentrate on things that make me joyful.
Looking back at those episodes, they seemed so overwhelming at the time, I thought the only way to deal with stuff was to check out altogether, but it wasn't (and the legacy I'd have left could have damaged so many innocent people).
There is always another way.
Best Wishes.