The Mental Health Thread - (Help Contacts in First Post).
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Re: The Mental Health Thread - (Help Contacts in First Post).
Some truly amazing posts on here of late, Fjthegrey, Turntostone,Whitey and Mega Ron to name but four..
You inspire us all.
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You inspire us all.
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I’ve no recollection of my parents being remotely civil towards or about each other and they WERE divorced. My dad died in 1993 and it still bothers me to the day.
Dad was largely to blame as he was useless but mum could’ve kept a more dignified silence.
Dad was largely to blame as he was useless but mum could’ve kept a more dignified silence.
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Re: The Mental Health Thread - (Help Contacts in First Post).
It sounds like you're holding a lot of pain there, Jim.btajim - mcfc wrote: ↑Mon Jul 25, 2022 10:03 pm I’ve no recollection of my parents being remotely civil towards or about each other and they WERE divorced. My dad died in 1993 and it still bothers me to the day.
Dad was largely to blame as he was useless but mum could’ve kept a more dignified silence.
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What do I do? Forgive them?
When he phoned at 7pm every Sunday, he might ask one of us to run something by mum (a visit, trip), she’d freak and grab the phone to scream ten shades of crap at him. My sister and I would sit there and cringe. We were lucky to see dad twice a year. That’s how bad it was.
When he phoned at 7pm every Sunday, he might ask one of us to run something by mum (a visit, trip), she’d freak and grab the phone to scream ten shades of crap at him. My sister and I would sit there and cringe. We were lucky to see dad twice a year. That’s how bad it was.
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You can't help the past, and sure as hell you can't change it.
0ld people like me seem to spend their lives living in the past, at least if you've f*cked things up on the same scale as I have, then that's not a mistake you're likely to make. There have been times when I've fantasised about going back to see all the people I've been close to over the years, and apologising to them, but in truth what if I could, but then found they weren't that bothered? If I was just a long forgotten dalliance and nothing like the huge deal that goes round and round in my mind some 25 years on?
I know nothing about relationships, but I'm not bad at getting through each day and for me that's based fundamentally upon forgiving yourself for everything that's gone before.
0ld people like me seem to spend their lives living in the past, at least if you've f*cked things up on the same scale as I have, then that's not a mistake you're likely to make. There have been times when I've fantasised about going back to see all the people I've been close to over the years, and apologising to them, but in truth what if I could, but then found they weren't that bothered? If I was just a long forgotten dalliance and nothing like the huge deal that goes round and round in my mind some 25 years on?
I know nothing about relationships, but I'm not bad at getting through each day and for me that's based fundamentally upon forgiving yourself for everything that's gone before.
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Having a melt down today full of tears and thinking of calling it all a day.
Eldest daughters birthday on Sunday I rang text sent her a present and card.
Spoke to my ex earlier who I work with she just dropped in to the conversation that its my daughters graduation tomorrow.
I've spent the last 5 years missing out on xmas birthdays special occasions.
There's only 2 spaces and I'm not invited this has hit me so badly the rooms spinning I'm choked up and feel dizzy sorry for the dramatic tone but I'm in a bad place. tempted to get up on the moor and call it all a day.
Eldest daughters birthday on Sunday I rang text sent her a present and card.
Spoke to my ex earlier who I work with she just dropped in to the conversation that its my daughters graduation tomorrow.
I've spent the last 5 years missing out on xmas birthdays special occasions.
There's only 2 spaces and I'm not invited this has hit me so badly the rooms spinning I'm choked up and feel dizzy sorry for the dramatic tone but I'm in a bad place. tempted to get up on the moor and call it all a day.
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You've got a PM. Use that number I sent you.
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Trying by thought to change the past.. a constant in my life, some days, over and over again.Tenbury wrote: ↑Tue Jul 26, 2022 8:18 am You can't help the past, and sure as hell you can't change it.
There have been times when I've fantasised about going back to see all the people I've been close to over the years, and apologising to them, but in truth what if I could, but then found they weren't that bothered? If I was just a long forgotten dalliance and nothing like the huge deal that goes round and round in my mind some 25 years on?
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Re: The Mental Health Thread - (Help Contacts in First Post).
Every reason to be 'choked up' rigoberts. I feel for you .rigoberts song wrote: ↑Tue Jul 26, 2022 10:05 am Having a melt down today full of tears and thinking of calling it all a day.
Eldest daughters birthday on Sunday I rang text sent her a present and card.
Spoke to my ex earlier who I work with she just dropped in to the conversation that its my daughters graduation tomorrow.
I've spent the last 5 years missing out on xmas birthdays special occasions.
There's only 2 spaces and I'm not invited this has hit me so badly the rooms spinning I'm choked up and feel dizzy sorry for the dramatic tone but I'm in a bad place. tempted to get up on the moor and call it all a day.
Take care mate.
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Your are hurting mate but that will not make the hurt stop, it will make your beautiful daughter hurt...permanently.rigoberts song wrote: ↑Tue Jul 26, 2022 10:05 am Having a melt down today full of tears and thinking of calling it all a day.
Eldest daughters birthday on Sunday I rang text sent her a present and card.
Spoke to my ex earlier who I work with she just dropped in to the conversation that its my daughters graduation tomorrow.
I've spent the last 5 years missing out on xmas birthdays special occasions.
There's only 2 spaces and I'm not invited this has hit me so badly the rooms spinning I'm choked up and feel dizzy sorry for the dramatic tone but I'm in a bad place. tempted to get up on the moor and call it all a day.
Ring the number DL sent you please and remember we are all here for you, do not give in, do not give up there IS hope and you are not alone.
Please call for help you can get through this.
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Thanks Ageing, DL and the rest of you for being there for me.
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I could break down right now at the thought of me leaving wherever I was living with the sole intention of committing suicide. I did it more than once from 19 onwards. I got professional help at 40. Suicidal thoughts even once are so wrong to have. You must see someone.
I’m in hospital right now. I’ve had a cancer scare (it was never there) but it’s just an internal abscess that’s clearing up on its own. In a few days, all this should be over.
Come on RS. You can get through this.
I’m in hospital right now. I’ve had a cancer scare (it was never there) but it’s just an internal abscess that’s clearing up on its own. In a few days, all this should be over.
Come on RS. You can get through this.
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thanks Jim good luck in hospital. A special thank you to somebody else on here for keeping me going and the long chat we've just had.
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I'm so pleased that people have reached out to you already, rs.rigoberts song wrote: ↑Tue Jul 26, 2022 10:05 am Having a melt down today full of tears and thinking of calling it all a day.
Eldest daughters birthday on Sunday I rang text sent her a present and card.
Spoke to my ex earlier who I work with she just dropped in to the conversation that its my daughters graduation tomorrow.
I've spent the last 5 years missing out on xmas birthdays special occasions.
There's only 2 spaces and I'm not invited this has hit me so badly the rooms spinning I'm choked up and feel dizzy sorry for the dramatic tone but I'm in a bad place. tempted to get up on the moor and call it all a day.
Your pain is very real & justified but, calling it a day however tempting, would be such the wrong thing to do, for you especially.
You'd miss out on so many happy times that you're going to have in the future.
It'll be ok, mate.
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Pick up the phone and call someone, mate. Anyone.rigoberts song wrote: ↑Tue Jul 26, 2022 10:05 am Having a melt down today full of tears and thinking of calling it all a day.
Eldest daughters birthday on Sunday I rang text sent her a present and card.
Spoke to my ex earlier who I work with she just dropped in to the conversation that its my daughters graduation tomorrow.
I've spent the last 5 years missing out on xmas birthdays special occasions.
There's only 2 spaces and I'm not invited this has hit me so badly the rooms spinning I'm choked up and feel dizzy sorry for the dramatic tone but I'm in a bad place. tempted to get up on the moor and call it all a day.
You are important. You are needed. You matter.
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At 4am yesterday I was in a pretty bleak place mentally.
I was sat on a bench, alone in the woods, with just darkness going through my mind.
So I called the Samaritans. And it just rang out. It made me laugh to think that not even they were interested.
I was sat on a bench, alone in the woods, with just darkness going through my mind.
So I called the Samaritans. And it just rang out. It made me laugh to think that not even they were interested.
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Thanks turn to Stone
And if you're not joking Mega Ron then good luck to you .
And if you're not joking Mega Ron then good luck to you .
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Go and see someone, Mega Ron. The Samaritans are volunteers so there’s only so many calls they can take.
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Re: The Mental Health Thread - (Help Contacts in First Post).
Ron, I’m really sorry to hear that.
We’d all like the opportunity to help you.
Please talk to someone or just get it all out.
Please take care.
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MR: Do you know anyone on here in real life? I’d come and see you but I’m currently in hospital and in the north west of England.