last.caress wrote: ↑Fri Jan 14, 2022 8:05 pm
Indeed, sir. The problem being of course that someone in that state of despair will likely believe that, in ending their life, they're doing a favour to those they're leaving behind.
My younger brother hung himself on September 9th 2014, leaving behind two young lads (then 6 and 8 years old). His memorandum thread is in The Memorial Ground part of the forum. My old man posted first and I never was able to contribute to the thread. No mention of suicide in it - still more taboo I guess back then.
It was a shock to all of us. We knew he was suffering, but certainly not to the level to take his own life. Even now, I think it was more of a spur of the moment thing when everything just hit him in one massive uppercut - the thing is, we'll never know. Maybe.
He left a note to my parents before he walked into their garage and did it. He also sent to me a text message as I was working in Malaysia (on a ****ing phone call to my boss about something trivial as the text came in, I read it and ignored it). Both of these messages came across as exactly what LC written above.
I'm no expert, but my brother loved his kids more than anything in the world, and there is absolutely no way on earth him deciding to kill himself was to negatively impact his kids or wider family and friends. Martin was ill and clearly mentally impaired. He was on pills and he was speaking to specialists prior to the day he ended it.
My daughter was due just two months later and I know that they would have loved each other dearly. He would have been a great uncle and although he was an opinionated dickhead at times, you knew he always had your back. My son (born 4 years later) has his name and I'm regularly fielding inquisitive questions from my kids about their uncle and how / why he isn't here.
I know I've written some of the above before, and it's incredibly painful to the very core to do so again. However, if any of you (or someone you know) is suffering, then for ****'s sake be there for them. Even if you don't even know them very well - at the very least show compassion and kindness.
I guess the point I'm trying to make is someone who reaches the clear decision to kill themselves aren't thinking clearly and I doubt are thinking of anyone or anything close to them. Be kind, compassionate and show love. It's what we're on this earth to do. To grow together.
And if you're feeling like it's all too much - it probably isn't. And I'm very sure your frame of mind isn't in the best position to determine that right now. Speak to someone. Anyone. And if you feel you can't reach out to those around you, PM me and I'll come to you at the drop of a hat - no questions asked.